Goal:
Practice communication skills and relating skill to
others when there is a disagreement.
Objective:
To identify and practice fighting fair communication
techniques.
Level: High School
Procedure:
1. Explain to students there is a constructive and destructive way to disagree in a relationship.
2. Have an audio or video tape (created by counselor or used from scenes in movies).
Have
the class listen or watch the people arguing.
3. Ask class what they thought was constructive and destructive in the conversation.
4. Give
the class the fighting fair guidelines, then give an example of each.
a. Use “I” statements rather “you” statements.
b. Restrain from using the words never and/or always.
c. Describe the behavior that frustrates you, not the person as a whole.
d. Stick to the subject of the disagreement or concern.
e. When one person is out of control, stop and take a break till in control.
f. Figure out an agreed upon solution to together.
5.
Have students listen or watch a tape.
The students should record any constructive fighting fair techniques they
observed and record any non fighting fair techniques.
6.
Have class discuss what they recorded.
What were the outcomes using “fighting fair” skills.
Discuss with class why the “fighting fair” skills are constructive.
Evaluation: Have students share either verbally or in writing times they
have had disagreements and how they fighting fair skills may have improved the
situation.